Anonymous asked: What is your idea of a normal person?
What do you think? A text book human : cis, straight, no mental problems, no disablities, able to reproduce.
I’ve effectively described .04% of the human population as normal.
American author, activist, and lecturer Helen Keller, June 11, 1916 (via womenaresociety)
Reminder that Helen Keller was a bad ass, and the fact that people only remember her as an “inspirational” child is really annoying.
So much for that really feminist video she made for “Hard Out Here” huh? You know, the one that black feminists and other feminists of colour and their allies said was anything but. Where’s your god now white feminists who praised this video…WHERE IS YOUR GOD.
Catcalling is not pleasant. It is not flattering. It is a reminder that, as women, we can’t even walk down the street or through a field without being scrutinised, objectified, and reduced to our looks. Even somewhere like a music festival, often considered to be a welcoming place with a great community, women can’t get away from this. It is intimidating, it is demeaning, and it makes many women feel unsafe. Countless women feel they have to change where they go, what they wear, or who they walk with, due to being harassed. It is not a compliment, and it should never be seen as “a bit of fun”.
It doesn’t matter that you have female friends. It doesn’t matter that you have female family that you love and respect. What shows your attitude towards women is not only how you treat the women you know well and care about, but how you treat the ones you don’t. The sexual objectification and harassment of women is one small part of why feminism and International Women’s Day are still necessary. If you can’t see the point of International Women’s Day, that is because you are part of the problem."
How much time have you spent talking to some cishet dude when you didn’t want to just because you’re scared of what his reaction would be if you declined?
…and that’s what it means to be socialized into fear and constant male accommodation as a means of survival
Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am."
— excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words. (via fajazo)